


So, how do we stop avoiding the silence? I’m so glad you asked. It will not be easy, but it is possible. It can happen one small step at a time. When you have formed a pattern of avoiding silence, it’s like you have to unlearn that pattern by teaching yourself a new way. I have 3 things I want to suggest to you that might help.
1). Start slow: This means, don’t jump in with trying to sit in silence for an hour. Maybe all you can take is 5 min in the beginning. Maybe you commit to driving home from work in silence. So that might look like you not reaching for your typical distractions of music or phone calls. You might have to set a timer on your phone for 10 min, commit to a place you will sit in silence, and go for it.
2). Commit to doing it: If you’re like me, you do well if you commit to something. It is as if you don’t want to let yourself down. Make the commitment realistic. If you know it is unrealistic for you to commit to an hour of sitting in silence, please don’t do it. Only commit to what you feel comfortable with starting out with.
3). Plan for it: Put it on your calendar if you need to. Plan for only 2 to 3 days at first. You can even plan out what it will look like for you. Be open to what it will bring up for you. Maybe plan by bringing a journal in the beginning, and journal after you sit in silence. Journal about anything that comes up in the moment and any heavy emotions. Journal about how you feel after you sit in silence. What is God speaking to you in those moments?
I hope this will help you to at least begin to feel curious like I’ve felt about sitting in silence. I’ve moved from curious to exploring what it will look like for me to trying it out a few moments a day. Those moments led me to write this poem about silence.

Is silence really golden?
It feels empty, hollow yet, inviting. Inviting me into a gutting of my soul to who I am. Silence lends space for my emotions to be felt and explored. It digs into the core of my heart leading me into a intimate search with the one who created me. The one who created all of creation already knows the details of who he created yet, he meets me in the silence opening my heart to all he wants to show me. Silence stills my mind and brings me into rest and solace. It is in the silence that the unraveling of who I was begins. It almost feels like a breaking. A breaking away from who I thought I could be. It is in the silence that whispers become beautiful Jesus filled messages that lead to my souls fulfillment. We run from the silence to our phones, to empty conversations, to our favorite music, not being fully aware that it is in the silence that Jesus waits for us. It is in the sacred moments of silence and solitude that we get to meet who we are. In the silence who we found under the pressure of life begins to emerge. Under the pressures of life who we are finds its way to the surface, it is in that version of who we are that our healing and rebuilding begins. There is something holy about laying down the noise of life in the silence. In the silence we exchange hurriness for the slow quiet, placidity that silence invites us into. Silence scares me because I’m left vulnerable to my own thoughts. Yet, I keep returning to it because there is this untangling happening in my heart as Jesus unravels what I built and builds something beautiful that he can use.
So, here I sit in the silence letting Jesus meet me there. The silence is a invitation to my soul for something deeper, something more, something new, something beautiful, something restored.
These words seemed to just pour out of me the other night. I had been processing what it meant to sit in silence for me. Honestly, I keep talking about the world were living in today because it’s so heavy on my heart. It makes the invitation to sit in silence and solitude feel more intriguing. The thought of it almost feels safe from the world. It feels like an invitation to hide away from the noise under the shadow of his wings. Maybe right now, you have been looking for something more and you need something or some place that feels safe. Maybe like me, silence feels scary right now, but you’re intrigued about what it might look like for you. I want to invite you on a journey with me. A journey of restorative silence. Pick your day, pick the time, decide how long, plan out how it will look for you, and go for it! Let silence restore something in you that feels lost or out of place. I’m so glad you’re here with me. Please take your shoes off, kick your feet up, take a deep breath, and relax in the light.
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